My perpetrator truly believes that abuse in marriage is normal and in the final years I was so afraid he would kill me and our children that I stayed silent after continually crying out for help.
I became so sick the fight left my body. My fibromyalgia flared up so bad I ended up surviving on medication. That medication helped with my pain but also suppressed my ability to defend myself.
He uses my silence during that stage as justification that it couldn’t have been that bad. His violence had escalated to a truly cruel level. While all the time wanting intimacy. When the victim stop crying it really is that bad as they have given up and died within.
Silence hides violence.