SUSTAINING MARRIAGE. #BISMILLAH!
To many people, marriage is no more than you meet someone. You fall in love. You get married. You live happily ever after…. Only if it were that easy!
Sadly, the reality that stares us in the face isn’t very gratifying. By design, marriage should be fruitful, happy and enduring. This is as Allah points out to us:
“And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.” ✔(Surah Ar-Room Quran 30, Verse 21).
Isn’t it really strange that relationships bound together with love and affection just yesterday turn really sour today? You wondered, where all the ‘I love you(s)’ went? At what point did the beloved of yesterday turn to the detested of today? Why do heartthrobs become heart robs?
You would think , every couple enters into their marriage with high hopes and strong desire to make their own an ideal relationship. However that is not always true. The sister enters the marriage innocently and soon become really defeated. Why is this happening you ask yourself? Well often the perpetrator has no fear of Allah and just intends on using the sister for whatever he needs. As he had no fear of Allah nothing stops him from harming her in different ways either psychological, emotional, physical, financial etc. Sometimes all of the typesof abuse are present.
Is it ever possible to sustain marriage for a real long time these days?
The answer is ‘yes’ and the presence of many enduring marriages attests to this Alhamdulillah.
To avoid marrying a perpetrator you need to love yourself without the love of others inshallah. You need to be aware of red flags and listen to your intuition inshallah.
May Allah help in sustaining your marriage biithni’lIaah (by Allah’s Grace)!.
May Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala) bless us and protect our marriage from the satanic influences. Aameen.